Healing Divided Families, Communities & Organizations
Transform conflict through microstorying, antenarrative mapping, and restorying — proven methods from 45+ books and decades of organizational research.
Transform conflict through microstorying, antenarrative mapping, and restorying — proven methods from 45+ books and decades of organizational research.
Restorying Narrative Wounds in Families, Communities & Organizations
Seven Tamaraland Principles for Awakening from the Architecture of Psyops
Practical exercises for navigating divergent points of view
ESP metaphysics, quantum non-locality, and Jain philosophy
There are many rooms in Tamaraland,
happening at once, and your storying of experiences depends on
the pathways each of us has traversed in our lives.
Dr. Boje on why listening — not debating
— is the first move toward healing divided families,
communities, and nations. Read
instruction Manual for Tamaraland Principles of Conflict
Deescalation.
| Principle | Tamaraland Conversations Among Divergent POV |
|---|---|
| Rooms | Honor concrete, situated experience. No one sees all rooms. |
| Hallways | Protect the ambiguous space where old stories fall apart and new ones emerge. |
| Doors | Maintain visible invitations for dialogue; respect autonomy. |
| Empty Chair | Honor absence as ongoing complexity. |
| The Map You Don't Have | Cultivate epistemic humility — no one sees the whole. |
| Footprints | Ground stories in deep, relational memory. |
| Seventh Room | Prioritize intergenerational responsibility. |
Dr. Boje explores his theory for healing divided families, communities, & nations with microstorying and conversational storytelling inquiry.
A four-phase methodology to transform systemic polarization and "us vs. them" conflicts into community coherence.
The Action: Facilitators create "story circles" where residents and participants share their experiences without judgment. Using microstorying techniques, the facilitator elicits brief, concrete narratives of individual encounters that reveal what people actually experienced.
Core Aim: De-escalate hostility by restoring individuals to "story-level" experience. This grounds discussions in lived reality rather than abstract ideology.
The Action: Using the Wheel of Life as a diagnostic tool, the community identifies "antenarratives" — fragmented pre-stories and raw materials of reality that exist before a polished narrative is formed. This includes identifying "Little Wow Moments" (LWMs), instances of grace that contradict the conflict's status quo.
Core Aim: Expose hidden tensions and systemic issues before they harden into manifest conflict, and prevent cherry-picking of facts by including the antenarrative inconveniences that grand narratives usually discard.
The Action: The community actively constructs counter-narratives and synthesizes shared meanings — weaving fragmented stories from Phase II into a new, shared narrative ecology.
Core Aim: Build a strategic defense against dehumanizing ideologies and establish a collective narrative that respects individual differences while fostering belonging.
The Action: This phase involves sensing multi-temporality and temporal entanglement. Facilitators help participants recognize that past, present, and future coexist and influence one another simultaneously.
Core Aim: Achieve deep social healing by helping the community understand that the future is acting upon the present — for example, how ancestors' survival (past) and children's hopes (future) are both actively shaping current resistance (present). This dissolves the static linear narrative and replaces it with a living, entangled reality.
Boje identifies these patterns turning everyday disagreements into a public health crisis — with one in five family estrangements now directly tied to political differences.
Divides the world into "real Americans" versus enemies. An ontological script that tells people they exist only in opposition to a threat, demonizing the adversary rather than engaging in policy debate.
Policies and rhetoric that treat human beings as expendable objects. When family members view this cruelty as "justified" while others see it as "intolerable," it draws a non-negotiable moral line that ruptures relationships.
Vocabulary like "infestation," "poisoned," or "vermin" that assigns sub-human status to others. When used, it turns family gatherings into referendums on whether certain people are fully human, making shared connection impossible.
Constant crisis talk and claims of victimization that create an environment where compromise is viewed as moral weakness and listening to the other side is seen as treason — making ordinary disagreement feel like war.
Dr. Boje listens to all sides, assembles a team of conflict management coaches, and conducts assessments using original decision tree software.
Dr. Boje meets with all sides individually, taking detailed notes while maintaining strict confidentiality. This creates a safe space for honest expression before any joint sessions.
A specialized team of 2–7 conflict management coaches is assembled, drawing from volunteers in the Insight community, local universities and colleges, and Boje's network of trained coaches and consultants.
Each participant completes assessments using Boje's Decision Tree Software (versions 1.0–5.0), providing structured input on their experience, metaphysical orientations, and desired outcomes.
Virtual and/or on-the-ground workshops are conducted first with each side, creating space for processing, reflection, and preparation for dialogue.
After respective coaching sessions, facilitated workshops bring everyone together for together-listening, finding common ground, and co-creating new possibilities.
Using the decision tree software, pretest and posttest measurements assess shifts in storying, together-listening, ability to find common ground, and mutual understanding. For larger populations, representative samples are used.
Financing: Funds are raised through Boje and Rosile's certified non-profit PerView Inc. [501(c)(3)] to cover expenses such as airfare, meals, hotel, and workshop materials.
Try the versions I have created for you — all are free.
Focuses on individual transformation through seven dimensions: Beneath (unconscious patterns), Before (past narratives), Bets (future possibilities), Being (present awareness), Becoming (transformation), Between (relationships), and Beyond (transcendence).
Designed for quick intervention in crisis situations, helping individuals and teams rapidly shift from stuck stories to new possibilities through streamlined antenarrative work.
Integrates Indigenous relational thinking and Wahkohtowin principles, guided by the AI companion "Wahko." Addresses conflict through relational accountability and community wisdom.
Three-part assessment system including Storytelling Style Leadership (SSL), Personal Metaphysical Questionnaire (PMQ), and Decision-Making Heuristics Inventory (DHI) for comprehensive organizational analysis.
Models the fragmented, simultaneous nature of organizational reality where multiple echo chambers operate at once. Provides navigation through factorial complexity — for example, 10 simultaneous "rooms" or contexts creates 3,628,800 permutations.
The foundational principles guiding authentic narrative work.
Vietnam veteran. Agent Orange survivor. Stage IV cancer survivor. First-generation college graduate turned distinguished professor. Pioneer of antenarrative theory.
Boje asserts that political division creates a public health crisis characterized by:
Free monthly webinar — 1st Friday of
the month, 90 minutes on Zoom.
Why does collaboration across difference feel harder than it
should? It's not a skill problem — it's a sensemaking
problem. Different stories, different rooms,
different effort expectations. We mistake difference for
defiance and effort for resistance.
Tamaraland — Seeing the rooms we're actually standing in, and why others see something completely different. Organizations aren't one story; they're buildings with many rooms happening at once. You never see the whole building.
Quantum Storytelling — Holding multiple truths without forcing premature agreement or collapsing complexity. Your presence changes what becomes speakable; multiple story-states coexist; people resist being finalized.
VuJaDé™ Effort Charts — Making the real cost of collaboration visible so we prepare instead of blame. Effort is normal when difference exists. The danger isn't effort — it's unexpected effort.
Together: Story tells us where we are. Quantum coaching tells us how to hold it. Effort Charts tell us what it will cost.
These sessions draw directly from Dr. Boje's new 2026 books:
Healing Divided America — A four-phase microstorying intervention (story-listening, antenarrative mapping, restorying, quantum storytelling) to transform polarization into community coherence.
The Seventh Room — Seven principles for navigating the rooms, hallways, doors, and empty chairs of organizational and family life.
Storying the Future: AI, Echo Chambers, and the Art of HHT Ensembles — Explores how AI and echo chamber dynamics intersect with storytelling. Read a sample →
Veterans and family members navigating division. Teams and organizations where collaboration feels harder than it should. Communities caught in friend-enemy frames, cruelty normalization, or permanent-emergency rhetoric.
Coaches, consultants, and facilitators learning to hold difference safely. Anyone who wants to stop mistaking difference for defiance.
Nothing here requires belief — only attention.
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One conversation could change everything. Dr. Boje brings decades of expertise in conflict transformation, antenarrative theory, and restorying methodologies.
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